If you having hard time in your relationship and you think it’s not going to be fruitful, then quit! Relationship should be fun, romantic and supportive but when it’s becoming outrageous, the best advice is to breakup.
If you breakup or wanting to, kindly note that there are some benefits attached to your decision or what is going to happen soon. In my previous article, I mentioned various ways you can breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend without any headache.
If you have been with your lover for years, it won’t be easy to decide and determine on this. But if you are also thinking about the good things that is going to happen after your breakup, then you will very glad and feel like a king.
I’m not saying that breakups are worth of celebrating, in fact it causes heartbreak. And everything feel dark and empty to you but don’t worry, I’m going to tell you why you need to be happy once again.
Let move on;
What are the Benefits of Breakups? Here are Comprehensive Answers
Below are the most crucial benefits of breakups to build yourself till your next relationship and, also use it to motivate others. Let start going through it:
- You’re Single Again: There are great joy in dating and of course being single. Remember the time you were single, what do you think about yourself?
When you were dating, about 70% of your thinking will based on how to sustain your relationship (provided you were madly in love) while using just 30% to think about yourself. That’s cheating!
Since you are no longer in a relationship for now, you are going to retrieve your 100% thinking and focus on yourself. This is exactly as being born again because you’re going to start learning how to start afresh without facing hell again.
- You Abstain from Online Dating: Whenever a relationship goes asunder, the pain that results from it is a very great benefit of breakup. If you met your lover in dating chatroom but now you guys are no more together, it’s another privilege for you to rest your head, desist from 24/7 chatting and focus on real life.
There are different reasons why you need to abstain from online dating either for now or for never. In one of my previous article, I stated different ways you can avoid being scammed when dating online and I hope it’ll help.
If you desist from online dating for few months, you are going to learn from the stupid things you have done and this will get you ready for your next better dating.
- You learn to be Picky: Not everybody deserve to be in relationship with you no matter the position of that person. But, you will never realize this until you finally breakup that you lover.
When you were dating that your formal lover, you have learnt many things from him or her and that’s what should be your stepping stones to a new and better relationship.
This is what I mean; when you guys were together, there are things you don’t like about him or her but you were enduring till when things changes for better as you expected but unfortunately, things has changed to breaking-up.
Now this is the benefit: Look out for these things in every guys or ladies on your next list. Make sure you don’t make those mistakes again.
- You Learn to Build Self-Esteem: This is another reason while ‘Breakup’ is beneficial to you. The first thing you lost when you started dating was self-esteem. That’s the ability to think yourself and do what you like without seeking for permission from anybody.
But unfortunately, it’s not so when you are dating because you need to satisfy your partner (if you want to have happy relationship) which may sometimes inconvenience you. But congratulation, you have gained you freedom now.
- You Will Have More Time for Family & Friends: So, you are finally back home and no one is going to take much of your time and attention for now. You are free to gout out with friends, catch fun, converse with anybody. During this time, you will learn another from the world outside relationship.
There won’t be an alternative such as ‘who should I take between my lover and family, or friend’. You can now think straight and have the best time with those who are there for you right from start.
- You Will Meet New & Different Lover: This will open an opportunity for you to meet a new lover. MIND YOU, in #3 and #4 above, I said you are going to be picky and during the time, you are going to build more self-esteem that how you were in your previous relationship.
The person you are to meet next is going to be so different than the previous lover. The reason for this is because you have carefully learned from your deceased relationship to create a new and lively one.
- You Will Gain More Experience: A popular saying explained that ‘Practice Makes Perfection’. When you were in a relationship or dating rather, it’s like you are practising ahead for a better and fruitful relationship.
If you are wise enough, the experience gained from previous relationship should be able to sustain this new one and that’ll be more beneficial to you rather then learning how to do this or that.
To breakup with your heartstring is nothing to boost of. But once it happened, you need to start looking for every possibilities to be happy again.
I have aligned 7 different reasons why you need to be happy and think over again. I’m sure that if you ponder on these benefits listed above, there will be less or no pain left in your heart.
I’m not an expert or relationship counsellor but I have make it part of my duties to help both new, falling and thriving relationship through my writing. I believe you will let me know if you have any question or feedback. If yes, kindly do using the comment box below.
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